“How many rivers do we have to cross before we can talk to the boss”
Bob Marley
Is it the full moon or the effects of the latest 90 days meditation (37 1/5min of Long Ek Ong Kar plus 11min of Creator projection given as homework from my latest Level 2 Kundalini Yoga Teacher training with Ik Saran Dhian)? Whichever the case, all I know is that the last week has been extremely tough. I have been feeling extremely tearful, vulnerable and unable to move to a neutral space.
I have seen a lot of my insecurities resurface and my childhood scars reopen with the only difference that there isn’t any blame to be dished-out but plenty of awareness of how it is all about the Ego at play to keep me in the finite game of life. I am aware that during a personal spiritual journey it is not unusual to feel like one is going backwards rather than forward, and it is often stressed how this is should not be regarded so much as a demotion but a peeling of another layer in understanding our predicaments. However this time I have been surprised by the intensity of these emotions at a time where I truly felt I had moved on. I felt neglected, jealous, not worthy and unable to stop myself from reacting. Basically I have found myself re-living the stories I used to tell myself and the rest of the world, but this time with the awareness of knowing exactly that is just what they are, stories Then came the regret for not counting up to 10, for exposing my shadows and risking not to be liked by those I care for. All painfully “old stuff” which clearly still holds a lot of energy. I can see how I am still not able to fully have my own back, how there is still a not so subconscious expectation to be seen and feeling the pain of not being in control of what is coming.
There is also a lot of fear of moving forward, of stepping out of the comfort zone.
Today
This blog has been sitting in my drafts draw for nearly 18 months ad as you all well know by now, nothing is an accident. I am revisiting it today because somehow what I am going through righ now makes it relavant.
You honestly could not make up the way syncronicities force you to deal with unfinished business. The past I have been so attached to with all the stories I hid behind – that have help me built my armour of resilient, independent survivor and the victim of such harsh destiny that I have nourished for such a long time – has finally shown is true colours. It has succeded in keeping me prisoner, I spend so much time looking behind trying to fix or making sense of what remained unchangable that I only ended up making do with the present, without much enjoyinment but so much resentment. Now I have started to understand the message that my teachers have so patiently tried to convey. Now I look back and I see all the patterns: how I consistently short-changed myself, thinking that i did not deserve better; how I narrowed the possibilities blindly following a belief system that has only managed to castrate me and could never live up to its promise of happy ever after. My great consolation is seeing that my children have not followed in my footsteps and are living their best life and in that somehow my experience has taught them that much.
I am still not immune to triggers that are still able to bring out unplesant and self-demoting feelings, after all this is how deep conditioning works and it takes time to break that link. However once again the level of consciousness I have acquired allows me to see that, to recognize it for what it is, but to also be able to keep it where it belongs: in the past. Finally breaking its hold on the present and to the many possibilities still available for the taking.
Freeing all this energy is also releasing a lot of daily anxiety, which is not easy to sit comfortably with. It is a times a fear, others an excitement for what is coming, but is not paralising. It still hold a springy quality. The future is coming and about to reveal itself, I just have to keep balancing until I am ready to jump.
I could not have found a better sentence to express what I am feeling and trying to convey than the words of Marianne Williamson cited in Reveal a book that litterally fell in my hand, the only copy in the Pound shop, which I only picked up because I had read Feel many years back and found it magnificent:
“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measuure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens is.”